What's Your Passion and Purpose?


That's a BIG question. Some of us know the answer - and are living it daily. Others have never even asked themselves that question. And most people are struggling to answer that question for themselves.

As a life coach, I often hear people say “I like the idea, but I have some other things I need to do first before I get a Life Coach." Often times, people are feeling incomplete, unsure, stuck or feel a lack of direction, all of which can make decisions seem overwhelming.

Does that sound familiar?

Some people have a dramatic life experience or revelation that brings them to life coaching with determination and confidence. But, most people are “looking into”

life coaching and hesitate for this reason.

Enter my life in 2008.

2008 is when I started day-dreaming of leaving the career I was in and perusing my passion. Problem was, I actually didn’t know what my passion was. I just knew it wasn’t what I had been doing. Don’t get me wrong, I loved my job – the work I was doing and the people I worked with. I did have a sense of fulfillment and accomplishment.

But something was missing – I knew I was meant for something else – that I had talents that needed to be utilized and fulfilled, but I was lost in so many questions…

“How could I leave my career?” (I mean it was my identity!)

“What was it that was tugging at me?”

“How would I make money?”

“What if I failed”

“What….what is it again that is calling me into my next journey??”

There I was – feeling the exact same way… feeling incomplete, unsure, stuck and had a lack of direction, all of which made all of my options and decisions seem overwhelming!

I had heard of life coaching – and even knew a few life coaches. And, after a few years of trying to FIGURE IT OUT ON MY OWN, I decided I needed some support, accountability and guidance.

This was different than going to therapy or counseling. I didn’t go into it with trauma, or thinking I needed to resolve something from my past.

It was the opposite. I was looking to my future and how to build it.

Needless to say, working with a life coach changed my life – and I still work with one!

Interestingly enough, I found through the process – life coaching was my calling.

I had worked in the field of nonprofit, behavioral health for for close to 25 years. My heart is in service. It always has been – and in a deep, deep way. But I wanted to bring a different dimension to my style of coaching.

I wanted to create a safe and sacred space for people to feel inspired and empowered to see themselves living their lives with passion and purpose. And building their path to getting there.

Also, as a meditation teacher and self-described “self-care guru”, I really wanted to infuse those options into my coaching practice – to help integrate coaching as a mind-body-spirit practice.

I often times have people ask me, what does a life coach do? And although I can’t answer for all life-coaches, my answer is to “help people uncover and discover their strengths, gifts and talents, and identify and release self-limiting beliefs and self-sabotaging behaviors that have gotten in the way of living their best lives.”

Most often I work with people who are in some sort of life transition, feeling stuck or lost, or really just know there is something more to life. I help peel away the layers of self-doubt, insecurity, judgment, guilt (all the yuck!) and help people tap into their intuition, true selves and their own power.

To walk this path with my clients – and see their life-altering changes is so incredibly humbling and fulfilling.

I consider myself an architect. Whereas a therapist is akin to an archaeologist (digging around in your past, unearthing issues and trying to figure you why you are who you are today), I view my role as an architect – where are you TODAY. Where do you want to go (goals, dreams, changes) and then let’s build the path to get you there. Often times, I have clients that are simultaneously going working with both me and a therapist. It can be a great combination!

I've always believed we hold our answers inside us. The problem is, that place of intuition, of knowing, of trusting our gut instinct has been covered up with layers of life stuff... disappointment, mistrust, regret, shame, etc... My goal as a coach is to help you access that place of learning to hear your small, quiet voice that is your true North. That can guide and direct you, and that you feel confident in that.

So, how do you know when it’s time for a life coach?

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Honestly, when someone is researching the topic, I have found it means that they know there is more to life than they are currently experiencing.

  • Transition: Divorce. Empty-nester. New mom or dad. Loss of a parent. New job. Recent marriage. Anything new: a business, blended family, new home.

  • Feeling stuck, lost or unhappy: Relationship or family issues. Career dissatisfaction. Recent college graduate. Feeling trapped in a current situation.

  • Health and Well-Being: Feeling unbalanced and overwhelmed in life. Feeling unhealthy and spiritually disconnected. Self-doubt and negative self-talk.

  • Life Purpose: Wanting to live a life of meaning.

  • Life Management: Time management, career coaching, life purpose, wellbeing, spiritual growth, personal development and growth.

The list of ways a great Life Coach can empower someone and help them become successful is endless.

If you know me, you know I LOVE data and statistics.

Although I am equally as passionate about listening to your intuition, I’m also a science-y n nerd too. So I went digging for some data and found these stats.

The International Coach Federation surveyed coaching clients feedback about the value and use of coaching. Here are some of their findings:

  • Value of the coaching investment: 98.5% of the clients indicated the coaching investment was "very valuable" or "valuable

  • Level of confidence in the coach: 50% confide in their coach as much as their best friend, spouse or therapist, 12% confide in their coach more than anyone else.

​An article in Public Management revealed a study where training alone was compared to life coaching combined with training.

The study showed that training alone increased productivity by 22.4% while training combined with weekly life coaching increased productivity by 88%. Here is why:

1) Accountability. Most life coaches have three sessions a month with their clients (I offer weekly). This regularly scheduled session prompts clients to get more done than they would if left to their own devices. Think about it, if you work out with a personal trainer at the gym, you work much harder than on your own. Clients take bigger actions, set bigger goals and think bigger when they work with a professional coach.

2) Expertise. The trained life coach knows how to help you set the right goals, make more money, and structure your personal and professional life to achieve greater productivity with less effort. You’ll achieve more in less time with the input of a certified Life Coach on your side.

3) Delivery. A well-trained coach knows how to use the right words so that you are naturally motivated. It doesn’t take brow-beating or nagging when you are working with a skilled life coach. Coaching typically works best with a weekly call so clients have time to integrate new ways of thinking and take action each week toward their goals. Most life coaching is done by phone and delivered in half hour to one hour coaching calls. The experience is challenging and uplifting. You’ll look forward to your weekly calls with your life coach.

4) Speed. Most people find that things start to happen very quickly after hiring a life coach.

Who works with a Life Coach?

Everyone! Entrepreneurs, executives, business leaders, actors, musicians, creative people, managers, small business owners, start-ups, professionals and home-makers all reach their goals with the help of a life coach. If there is a gap between where you are now and where you want to be, there is room for life coaching. As your life coach, not only will I help you close the gap, I will help you break through your limited beliefs and challenge you to think bigger.

Main role of the coach:

  • 84.8 % sounding board

  • 78.1% motivator

  • 56.7% friend

  • 50.5% mentor

  • 46.7% business consultant

  • 41% teacher

Typical issues:

  • 84.5 % time management

  • 74.3% career guidance

  • 73.8% business advice

  • 58.6% relationship / family issues

  • 51.9% physical / wellness issues

  • 45.2% personal issues

  • 39.5% goal-setting

  • 38.1% financial guidance

  • 11% creativity

The survey was conducted by Amy Watson, Principal, PROfusion Public Relations, with survey design assistance by Jackie Rieves Watson, Ph.D., professor of Management and Statistics, Amber University.

Any sort of self-development or personal growth activity is an investment in you! Ready to discover your passion and purpose?

Whether it’s taking a class at your local college, hiring a personal trainer, seeing a therapist, traveling, picking up a hobby, taking a personal development course, etc. We often look at doing these things as selfish, but what can be more fulfilling than discovering your passion and purpose and living your best life?

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